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The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships

  • Apr 11, 2021
  • Gary Chapman Jennifer M. Thomas
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The Five Languages of Apology How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships Just as you have a different love language you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language New York Times best selling author Gary Chapman teamed with counselor Je

  • Title: The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships
  • Author: Gary Chapman Jennifer M. Thomas
  • ISBN: 9781881273578
  • Page: 166
  • Format: Hardcover

    • Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language New York Times best selling author Gary Chapman teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it s not just a matter of will it s a matter of how By helping people identify the langJust as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language New York Times best selling author Gary Chapman teamed with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this groundbreaking study of the way we apologize, discovering that it s not just a matter of will it s a matter of how By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships The authors detail proven techniques for giving and receiving effective apologies.You ll learn the five languages of apology Expressing regretAccepting responsibilityMaking restitutionGenuinely repentingRequesting forgivenessHardcover edition.

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    1. Gary Chapman Jennifer M. Thomas

      Married than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships His own life experiences, plus over forty years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The 5 Love Languages How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate Millions of readers credit this continual 1 New York Times bestseller with saving their marriages by showing them simple and practical ways to communicate their love to their partner.Since the success of his first book, Dr Chapman has expanded his 5 Love Languages series to specifically reach out to teens, singles, men, and children.He is the author of numerous other books published by Moody Publishers Northfield Publishing, including Anger, The Family You ve Always Wanted, The Marriage You ve Always Wanted, Desperate Marriages, God Speaks Your Love Language, Parenting Your Adult Child, and Hope for the Separated He coauthored The Five Languages of Apology with Dr Jennifer Thomas.Chapman speaks to thousands of couples nationwide through his weekend marriage conferences He hosts a nationally syndicated radio program, Love Language Minute, and a Saturday morning program, Building Relationships with Dr Gary Chapman, that air on than 400 stations Dr Chapman also serves as senior associate pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Winston Salem, North Carolina.Dr Chapman holds BA and MA degrees in anthropology from Wheaton College and Wake Forest University, respectively, MRE and PhD degrees from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, and has completed postgraduate work at the University of North Carolina and Duke University.Dr Chapman and his wife have two adult children and two grandchildren, and currently live in Winston Salem, North Carolina.

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    1. Several of my friends are reading other books in this line (the five love languages, etc). One of them told me to "keep my filter on." I'll say. This book has a very Christian focus. The chapter on forgiveness was pretty much useless to me, as it was mostly "let go and let God".(Would a more careful reading of the book jacket have forewarned me? Possibly.)A lot of the examples are also based on Christian morals. Man, I thought I had problemsople get upset about some really silly things. (Note: l [...]

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    2. At first I thought this book was going to be tedious. I mean, really, how many books is Gary Chapman going to write with "5 Languages" in the title? So, I didn't expect this book to tell me much. As I read it, though, I realized it was rather an important read. Effective apologies aren't something overly well taught or conveyed. I didn't find the different languages of apology to be all that earth-shattering as they seemed a bit straight forward to me. However, since the language needed depends [...]

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    3. Age Appropriate For: 13 and up (some situations discussed)Best for Ages: 13 and upMy mom recommended this book to me a while back, but I just didn’t think about it for a while. After all, our family is really good at the whole process. We keep short accounts and work through issues. My mom and Dad talked about how different people need to hear different things and need different things before the five love language book came out. With that said, I hit a situation where I felt my apology was no [...]

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    4. I was raised a Christian and professed my own choice of the Christian faith at 13 but after reading a slew of Christian help books I can easily understand why people are fleeing the Christian faith in droves. This book made me question my own faith after decades (decades!!) of dedication.The Worst:The absolute two lowest points in the book were the scene where the author speaks of a woman having her jaw broken by her husband and then forgiving him and the scene of the sexually abused daughter. L [...]

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    5. "The Five Languages of Apology" is an excellent book that helped me understand repentance and forgiveness better by helping me recognize when others were apologizing to me, and to express my apologies better. Some genuine apologies seemed so fake to me, and sometimes other people just didn't seem to get how sorry I was; much of this was caused because we were speaking different "languages".The five 'languages' are: expressing regret ("I am sorry."), accepting responsibility ("I was wrong"), maki [...]

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    6. I've read The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate and The Five Love Languages for Singles and appreciate knowing the love languages and knowing what mine are, what my spouse's are, and those of family and close friends. My husband and I were discussing the love languages again the other day and went to Chapman's website, where we noticed a quiz for "apology languages". So we both took it and then I read this book. Knowing how we are when we apologize or the type [...]

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    7. I really enjoyed the first chapter of this book and agree with the authors that there are various languages of apology. I have noticed in my own marriage that at times my husband and I struggle with communicating our apology to one another. But within the next few chapters I soon disagreed with the author about the issue of when to forgive. I believe that we need to be cultivating a heart of forgiveness and taking our hurt to God so that when someone does apologies we are ready to extend our for [...]

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    8. If you have difficulty resolving conflicts with individuals you care about, this book provides the tools to get you started down the path. Written in the same style/tone as the Five Love Languages by Chapman, this book takes the time to outline, explain, discuss, and give examples of different ways people apologize. While it can be very easy to flip through the five different apology styles and think, "Yeah, I get it; I can understand all of these and don't have to finish reading this whole book [...]

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    9. Não esperava nada e fui positivamente surpreendida. Nunca tinha lido um livro desse modelo (principalmente um sobre casamento) para o qual eu não sou o público alvo. Mas achei muito interessante e muito esclarecedor; a leitura de dá oportunidade de se conhecer e conhecer aqueles a sua volta. Bônus: incrível falta de machismo num livro do começo dos anos 90 sobre relacionamentos héteros. Recomendo! 4,5 stars.

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    10. A powerful follow-up to The Five Love Languages, I think this one was even more useful in improving and maintaining health of my marriage. Where The Five Love Languages taught me to understand my spouse, The Five Languages of Apology taught me more about myself. At times, it was hard to face the realization that I have been exceedingly poor at speaking apologies in such a way that others accept my apology as sincere and heartfelt. I always belived that saying you're sorry and meaning it should b [...]

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    11. The concept in this book is excellent - basically that there are 5 elements to apologies and we all desire a different combination of some or all of them to feel as though the wrong-doer has actually apologized. It really made me think back to arguments that I've had that involve some sort of meta-argument about whether or not an apology has occurred. After reading this book, I can confidently say that I believe that the person RECEIVING the apology is the one to decide whether the giver has apo [...]

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    12. Another winner from Chapman and Thomas! The five languages of apology was nicely laid out, easy to read, excellent examples and even touched on the "Five languaes of love" (another book). The five languages of apology are:1. Expressing RegretExample "I am sorry."2. Accepting ResponsibilityExample "I was wrong."3. Making Restitution"What can I do to make it right?4. Genuinely Repenting"I'll try not to do that again."5. Requesting Forgiveness"Will you please forgive me?"The above 5 chapters are br [...]

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    13. Unfortunately not nearly as good as "The Five Love Languages". I do think the authors have a point, that there are different languages of apology, but I found it a lot harder to relate to the differences between the languages, and I still have absolutely no clue what my primary language of apology is!It's not a book I'd want to read in one sitting - although that's what I did with TFLL - because as it's a book about apology you're automatically made to think of times when you owed others an apol [...]

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    14. Have you ever had a disagreement with spouse, friend, or coworker and the apology given didn’t mend your hurt feelings? Or maybe you tried to apologize only to have your apology rejected. Possibly your apology didn’t match the style of the receiver. Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas discuss the various apology styles in The Five Languages of Apology. Christians Read: Books Review

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    15. This would have been better if they had deleted 2/3rd of it. The concept of apology languages is interesting and valuable. The additional religious content was heavy handed and preachy, it did not add to my understanding of the apology languages. If you want to avoid most of the religious rhetoric but still get an understanding of the apology languages, just read the first half of the book.

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    17. This book was good for helping me realize that someone may sincerely apologize but it may not be perceived as sincere by the person being apologized to. I do have an issue with one of the apology languages and also his definition of forgiveness that I don't quite agree with. He says that we cannot forgive unless the other person apologizes and asks for forgiveness. I don't agree. Possibly it's just a difference in wording but he says since God cannot forgive until we have confessed to Him and as [...]

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    18. Am cumparat cartea cu gandul ca este scrisa de psihologul Gary Chapman dar am constatat ca pastorul baptist Gary Chapman este mult ma prezent in sfaturi si pareri. Capitolul in care tanara abuzata sexual in adolescenta de tata ei este sfatuita de autor sa il asculte pe Iisus si sa deschida ea dialogul vindecarii si iertarii cu parintii (inclusiv cu tatal abuziv) si sa isi ceara scuze ca nu a avut contact cu ei multi ani la rand deoarece era ranita de faptele tatalui mi se pare deplasat.

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    19. Great book. Gave me a lot of insight on how to apologize so that the other person knows you are remorseful and are changing. Also now reading the 5 love languages again and realizing how I've been speaking the wrong language for s a long time.

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    23. Practical advice for something I wasn't taught growing up. The chapter about teaching your kids to apologize was the most meaningful to me.

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    24. Over all a very good book with useful, biblical information. It was also extremely obnoxious to read as the "five languages of," I understand that Chapman is known for his love languages books, but it really made this book feel cheapened by keeping with that theme. The parts to the apology are not "languages," rather pieces to a good apology, some being more important to people than others. There were also a LOT of real life examples, almost to the point of overkill. Despite knowing the annoying [...]

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    25. The Five Love Languages really has helped me a lot with relating to people, so when I saw the 5 Languages of Apology, I figured I'd give it a go. It didn't disappoint! Now I know what "language" to speak when offering an apology to different people in my life, and I also know why sometimes an apology offered to me just doesn't seem to "cut it" (because it wasn't spoken in my primary language; however, the authors did a good job of helping you see the person apologizing is doing the best they kno [...]

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    26. This is by far one of the best spiritual books I've ever read. I started reading this book with the belief that I was the most forgiving person, but after reading one chapter I realized I that I had much to work on. I deeply recommend this book to anyone who is ready to explore yourself.Gary Chapman writes that there are five languages of love:- words of affirmation- receiving gifts- acts of service- physical touch- quality timeThe basis is that you express your love in one or several of these l [...]

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    27. Per Tracey Scholen:"Just as you have a different love language, you also hear and express the words and gestures of apology in a different language. Gary Chapman has teamed up with counselor Jennifer Thomas on this study of the way we apologize, discovering that it's not just a matter of will--it's a matter of how. By helping people identify the languages of apology, this book clears the way toward healing and sustaining vital relationships. The authors detail proven techniques for giving and re [...]

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    28. Like Gary Chapman's other more popular book, The Five Love Languages, this book provides some helpful concepts as relationship tools and is good to read (or even just skim) at least once but it is not going to solve all your relationship problems. This book not only underrates the complexities that exist when you are dealing with years of baggage and trust issues but to my mind it doesn't even get at the core of what is necessary for resolution in some situations. I felt like it OVERsimplified a [...]

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    29. Much like his “Five Love Languages,” Gary Chapman has helped to develop “The Five Languages of Apology.” Alongside fellow researcher Jennifer Thomas, Chapman explains that people apologize in different ways, and the best way to make your apology meaningful is to apologize in the “language” of the person you offended. Likewise, it is important to recognize your own “Apology Language,” so that the people in your life will know how best to apologize to you. The Five Languages of Apo [...]

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    30. The five languages are:1. Expressing Regret: Needing to hear the words "I am sorry" and for some people they also need to know that the person understands what they are apologizing for.2. Accepting Responsibility: Needing to hear "I was wrong" and without justification such as "I know what I did was wrong BUT you" It is the accountability element.3. Making Restitution: Needing to hear "What can I do to make it right?" these people like to receive flowers (or jewelry) or for the person to do the [...]

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