Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island

Etched in Sand A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer New York State official and activist Her painful early life however was quite different Regina and her four siblings survived an abusive and painful childh

  • Title: Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island
  • Author: Regina Calcaterra
  • ISBN: 9780062218834
  • Page: 470
  • Format: Paperback
  • Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist Her painful early life, however, was quite different Regina and her four siblings survived an abusive and painful childhood only to find themselves faced with the challenges of the foster care system and intermittent homelessness in the shadows of Manhattan and the Hamptons.

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      Regina Calcaterra s memoir Etched in Sand, A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island HarperCollins Publishing, 2013 is a 1 international best seller and a New York Times best seller As a result of Etched in Sand s messages of resilience, optimism, the plight of foster children, that no child is a lost cause and how we can all positively impact the life of a child in need, it has been integrated into college and high school curricula throughout the U.S and been selected for community reads She is also co author of Etched in Sand s sequel which she wrote with her younger sister Rosie Maloney, Girl Unbroken, A Sister s Harrowing Journey from the Streets of Long Island to the Farms of Idaho HarperCollins Publishing, 2016 Girl Unbroken has also been integrated into college curricula alongside Etched in Sand.Etched in Sand s and Girl Unbroken s impactful messages include those of resilience, optimism and perseverance how kind acts can forever impact a child in need the vital role of the public library system, public education and the public university system on impoverished children how educators can forever impact transient children that no child is a lost cause childhood hunger, poverty, abuse, abandonment homelessness the power of sibling bonds risk of homelessness for young adults aging out of foster care parentless determination to succeed regardless of social status and breaking the cycles of addiction, alcoholism, child abuse, homelessness and incarceration Calls to Action Etched in Sand and Girl Unbroken have resulted in readers and those who have heard Regina speak adopting older foster youth becoming first time foster parents changing the rules of a food bank that now allow children to get food without no longer requiring that they be accompanied by a parent further developing the first program at a Long Island library that provides library cards for the homeless to allow them to access all of the library s resources, although they do not have a permanent address becoming guardian at litem and CASA members to ensure that every child in foster care has a voice learning how we can all forever impact the life of a child in need although they may only be before us for a moment in time and, increasing fundraising goals and or becoming first time contributors to related community based organizations Additionally, after learning that foster youth age out of the system parentless, a teen created an annual event called Teens Gotta Believe, where he raises community awareness about the need for adoptive parents for older foster youth and raises funds for You Gotta Believe, a not for profit that works towards getting older foster youth forever homes Professional BioRegina is a partner at the law firm of Wolf Haldenstein where she practices securities litigation and federal civil rights litigation Prior to joining Wolf Haldenstein, she served as Executive Director to two of the New York State Governor s statewide investigatory commissions, Deputy General Counsel to the New York State Insurance Fund, Chief Deputy to the Suffolk County Executive, Deputy General Counsel to the New York City Employees Retirement System, Director of Intergovernmental Relations to the New York City Comptroller and a partner in a securities litigation firm.Board Advisory PositionsRegina serves as the second vice chair to the SUNY New Paltz Foundation Board as an Ambassador to Library for All, a global effort to eradicate childhood illiteracy in third world countries and, on the Advisory Committee to the New York Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children For close to ten years, she served as a board member to You Gotta Believe, an organization that works to get older foster youth adopted Honors AwardsShe has received awards and honors such as the Lifetime Achievement Award, Primi Dieci Society and the Italy American Chamber of Commer


    1. The book's a genuine tear-jerker. Five little children all abused, a couple of them worse than the others with beatings and imprisonment, starvation and whatever else their mother (their five fathers were not present) could think up when she was present and not off on one of her months-long jaunts. You might think this was in some far-off country, but no it was in NY.They were let down time and again by social services so much so that they felt all the abuse was worth it just to stay together. W [...]

    2. I don't know where to start this review other than to say this isn't a book for the faint of heart. As a parent myself, there were parts of this book that were really hard for me to digest because I don't know how a person could care so little for their child, let alone five children. I really struggled through parts of this book because you want to think that things can't get any worse but you know that they will and they do. And it really just affirms my personal belief that you shouldn't be a [...]

    3. Reading this book is made tolerable only by the fact that the reader is informed in the Prologue that it has a happy ending—an example of survival beyond expectations from a horrendous childhood family environment. It makes a wonderful story when children from this sort of background are able to thrive as adults. I hate to consider how many examples may exist where children never manage to free themselves from the grip of poverty and abuse.Whenever I hear a story such as this I suspect that th [...]

    4. Etched in Sand . This book put me through the wringer, and I was just the reader. Regina Calcaterra shares with us the brutal, torcherous, and horrendous abuse she and her 4 siblings endured at the hand of the mother Cookie Calcaterra. I am not sure I have felt such intense hatred for a charachter in a book in my entire life. She was a viscous narcissist who in no way should have been allowed to have children, let alone five. What is refreshing about this memoir is Regina Calcaterra's voice. I b [...]

    5. Etched In Sand arrived yesterday- I was up into the wee hours of the morning to finish this beautifully written, compelling memoir. Regina Calcaterra, who is now a highly successful public advocate lawyer involved in NYS Government, courageously shares the painful, desperate world of her impoverished childhood in suburban Long Island. She is the middle child of 5 siblings of 5 different but absent fathers, who suffer the abuses of their mentally ill, alcoholic and drug addicted single mother. Th [...]

    6. Call me cold-hearted but I just didn't buy into this story. I am ready to lump this one right alongside A Child Called It. The author never comes across as likable, in fact I quite disliked her. She at times acts arrogant, ungrateful, and entitled. There's a point where Regina finally tells the truth to authorities and she ends up in a foster home where so is so ungrateful to the people who take her in and treat her well that I shut down any empathy I may have had for her.It was a little hard fo [...]

    7. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island by Regina Calcaterra is the true story of the abuse and neglect the author and her siblings suffered through - at the hands of their mother and in a system that wasn't working as it should. Regina notes that her childhood made her very aware of how people in power can impact the lives of others and this knowledge helped lead her to her present day career in public service.Regina has two older siste [...]

    8. 4.5 stars, but A BIG PROBLEM.Great memoir. Bravely written and a wonderful example of internal and personal perseverance. HOWEVER, it's important to point out, a major disconnect in the author's perceptions. I'm still amazed at how emotionally stilted being in the foster care system can be for children who grow into emotionally stilted adults. I was taken aback at her contempt of the overworked, underfunded social service system. Her utter stoicism and total unappreciative nature for her foster [...]

    9. Whenever I start to read a memoir about a difficult childhood, I think, well, it probably isn't going to be all that different from the others, and I'm invariably wrong. Each story is horrific and moving with a unique version of living hell. In Etched in Sand, Regina Calcaterra recounts in vivid, simple prose the misery and chaos she and her three sisters and a brother faced living with their brutal mother, and too often without her as for months at a time they would have to fend for themselves [...]

    10. This book, written by Regina Calceterra is about the lives of her three sisters and brother growing up with an alcoholic and an extremely emotionally, mentally and physically abusive mother. I don't even know where to start with this. Sometimes homeless, sometimes living in the worst of living conditions these children managed to survive. Sometimes left on their own, with no food, no heat in the winter, in and out of foster care (sometimes good but mostly bad) how they ever survived is beyond me [...]

    11. Unbelievable. In a reading challenge I am doing for this site, I needed to read a book that featured SAND on the cover- I know, right? So, I thought that this one looked promising and the Kindle price was right. I am always interested in stories about the foster care system in America, as I see so many ways it can be improved upon- and I live in Canada! For this reason, I have always read the books of Cathy Glass, who writes about her experiences as a foster mom, and thought reading a book about [...]

    12. It is absolutely amazing how the author of this book and her siblings rose above their tragic childhood! They lived their lives with a damaged mother who's contribution was to give birth to them then often leave them to fend for themselves, a flawed system that continued to fail these children and society's ability not to see what was happening to them! They experienced so much damage, mentally and physically from those closest to them, yet they have grown up to be so much more than their backgr [...]

    13. Who is Regina Calcaterra? Well, currently, she is the Chief Deputy Executive of Suffolk County. Sounds fancy?What is interesting is Regina’s life. Raised by an abusive mother, Regina and her four siblings endured a tragic childhood facing hunger, physical, psychological abuse, and their share of foster care.In Etched in Sand, Regina proudly recounts the early years of her life until she became a lawyer and a New York State Official.The book is an inspiration for those living in poverty and who [...]

    14. What an inspiring bring things into perspective book! First of all, Regina, thank you for rising above your horrible upbringing and being strong enough in the end to tell your story.Growing up in NJ, so close to NY, I never heard of this horrible woman who not only had 5 children but then refused to be a mother to them. The conditions these children grew up in are incredibly horrific. I wish this mother was still alive to read her "daughters" story and to see what a monster she was. This book is [...]

    15. Read it in one sitting! A remarkable story of these five children who managed to grow into strong adults by creating a family unit within themselves and with their determination to protect it from their abusive mother or separation from social services. Harrowing, heartbreaking, inspiring. Wonderful. Read it!

    16. Regina Calcaterra's powerful memoir, Etched In Sand, begins with her flying over the ravaged neighborhoods of Long Island following the hurricane, Super Storm Sandy. As chief deputy executive of Suffolk County, it is Regina Calcaterra's job to regulate, not just post-disaster funding, but any government resources her county receives. Calcaterra's career in public service is not accidental; growing up with four siblings and an abusive, neglectful, alcoholic mother and an ineffective foster child [...]

    17. From The Book Wheel:I don’t even know where to start. This book is just that powerful. I’ve been putting off writing this review because I was trying to figure out how to put into words the impact it had on me and I’ve finally realized that I’m speechless. Absolutely speechless. And we all know that never happens. I read this book from cover to cover (until 4 am) and cried for the Calcaterra kids on numerous occasions.I’m getting my Master’s in Public Policy, so this book impacted [...]

    18. There are just too many stories available to any reader, in this day of instant access, of atrocities/horrors that have befallen a child, a person, an animal, a country of people.And this is just another one of them.The woman who authors this memoir is a politician and an attorney, both jobs of questionable personal veracity if one were to develop a ‘truth matrix.’In a similar Didion-esque way, this story leaves a bad taste in the mouth.I do not dabble in widely read books and I thank this b [...]

    19. "Etched in Sand" blew me away! This is one of those books where the subject matter is incredibly intense but you will be absolutely drawn to this story. Regina and her siblings lived through such horrible things at the hands of their mother and they come out on the other side and are able to overcome their situation. It was really amazing to read this book where there are so many bad things going on and to see that good things can still come out of the bad.Ms. Calcaterra tells her story in an un [...]

    20. I've been on a mission to learn why some children of dysfunctional, abusive homes are able to live and thrive and become successful and some children do not. Some grow up and become dependent on drugs and alcohol and perpetuate the cycle of abuse; some stop the cycle and are able to create a loving family and successful career despite their upbringing. After reading this book, and others, as well as personal experience, I am starting to think that a child needs two things to be able to be able t [...]

    21. Luckily, Regina Calcaterra lets us know in the first pages of the book that all the children in her family have survived their horrific upbringing at the hands of a mentally ill and alcoholic mother. Otherwise, the repeated tales of abuse and neglect would overwhelm the reader. The book instead is a testament to the tenacity of the human spirit, to maintain hope and familial love in the face of terrible odds.Calcaterra, through her own intelligence and determination manages to survive the double [...]

    22. This was an excellent book. It is unbelievable how Regina Calcaterra survived this abuse, much less having the stellar career she has had. The fact that all five of her siblings managed to survive and lead productive lives is nothing short of a miracle.Their mother was mentally ill and emotionally warped and she only needed her children to get welfare money. She was just shrewd enough to say the right things to HRS to continue to get benefits which she spent on herself. The children were either [...]

    23. Right off the batI have to warn that there is a great deal of harsh language in this book. I have often been asked to write my own story and many times I reply that I don't enjoy the harsh language that would accompany my story. Regina Calcaterra did a fabulous job of telling her story. The main characters needed to be shared in the way they were experienced and therefore the language was part of the experience. I am in awe of the way this story was shared. It is horrific, inspiring, sad, happy, [...]

    24. I read this on my kindle. Regina C.has written a memoir of her horrible childhood. she was one of five kids, each one had a different father. their mother was a terrible selfish woman who abused all of them but the single boy in the bunch.Regina and her siblings spent a childhood of abuse,hunger,homelessness. she beat Regina severely. the kids learned how to steal to even eat. between the times they lived with the horrible mother they called "Cookie" the kids were separated and sent to many diff [...]

    25. A very courageous yet powerful book about the lives of five abandoned children placed in foster care. Thoughout their journey through the foster care system, they never forgot about each other. Their mother had several unresolved issues throughout her own life but they still had a bond with her, which proves that blood is thicker than water. each sibling was strong in their own way, leading separate lives but always tried to stay in touch with their lived ones. This story proves that children th [...]

    26. While many people flip (and now scroll) right to Chapter One, I’ve always been too curious about what an author’s chosen to share before a story unfolds to skip the prologue. Never have I been more grateful for that curiosity than when reading Regina Calcaterra’s Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island. This memoir prologue is a lofty one – literally describing the once-homeless author flying above Hurricane Sandy-ravaged Long Is [...]

    27. This book is amazing! It took me a while to be able to read because I have a hard time with child abuse. I kept reading to see how they all were able to live & succeed.I had seen a story on CBS Sunday Morning about women who have overcome obstacles with Regina Calcaterra talking about her life & this book. I bought the ebook right away.If I didn't know she made it through & is alive today I wouldn't have been able to finish reading.I am forth of five daughters, so I can relate to Reg [...]

    28. It took a lot of courage I truly believe for the Author Regina Calcaterra to tell her story and that of her siblings of an abusive and unloving mother. Had me in tears at times. Would recommend this book.

    29. Wow, what an incredible story! I did not want to put this book down. This is the story of five children. Five children with the same mother, five children all with different fathers. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Cookie was one piece of work, a nasty, neglectful, abusive and hateful egg donor. While it was difficult to read of the horrid childhood these five siblings had, what they overcame was remarkable. With all that the person who gave birth to them (who does not deserve the title of m [...]

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