The Opposite of Love

The Opposite of Love With perfect pitch for the humor and heartbreak of everyday life debut author Julie Buxbaum has fashioned a heroine who will be instantly recognizable to anyone who has loved and lost and loved again

  • Title: The Opposite of Love
  • Author: Julie Buxbaum
  • ISBN: 9780385341233
  • Page: 228
  • Format: Paperback
  • With perfect pitch for the humor and heartbreak of everyday life, debut author Julie Buxbaum has fashioned a heroine who will be instantly recognizable to anyone who has loved and lost and loved again.When twenty nine year old Manhattan attorney Emily Haxby ends her happy relationship just as her boyfriend is about to propose, she can t explain to even her closest friendsWith perfect pitch for the humor and heartbreak of everyday life, debut author Julie Buxbaum has fashioned a heroine who will be instantly recognizable to anyone who has loved and lost and loved again.When twenty nine year old Manhattan attorney Emily Haxby ends her happy relationship just as her boyfriend is about to propose, she can t explain to even her closest friends why she did it But somewhere beneath her independent exterior, Emily knows her breakup with Andrew has less to do with him and to do withher It s like you get pleasure out of breaking your own heart, her best friend Jess tells her.As the holidays loom and Emily contemplates whether she made a huge mistake, the rest of her world begins to unravel She s assigned to a multimillion dollar lawsuit where she must defend the very values she detests by a boss who can t keep his hands to himself her Grandpa Jack, the person she cares most about in the world, is losing it, while her emotionally distant father has left her to cope alone and underneath it all, memories of her deceased mother remind her that love doesn t last forever.How this brave young woman finally faces the fears that have long haunted her is the great achievement of this marvelous first novel, written with authority, grace, and wisdom.

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    1. Julie Buxbaum

      Please check out my two novels, THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE and AFTER YOU, both now out in paperback My first YA novel, TELL ME THREE THINGS, debuts April 2016.Please check out my website juliebuxbaum for information about my books.Or to follow my recent shenanigans, please check out my blog, JULIE HAS WRITER S BLOG, at juliebuxbaum blog One of my favorite things about being a novelist is the opportunity to talk to reading groups If you are part of a reading group and would like to set up a conference call, or maybe even a meeting in person, please check out the reading group form and the reading group guide on my website.


    1. Just finished reading this first novel and really wasn't that crazy about it. It's the story of a 29 year-old lawyer, Emily, struggling to find herself (fix her relationship, her job, her family).Best part of the book: First line of chapter 1: "Last night, I dreamt that I chopped Andrew up into a hundred little pieces, like a Benihana chef, and ate them, one by one." Also, I liked the cold relationship she has with her father.Worst parts of the book: The extensive use of cliches throughout the n [...]

    2. I was lucky enough to get my hands on an ARC of this book - due to hit stores in January 2008 - and I wasn't disappointed. An honest, believable portrayal of a 29-year old woman who is paralyzed by life and who has to find the nerves and strength within herself to literally move forward. Very touching, smart and well-written. I expect this will be a huge book come 2008.

    3. I kept waiting for something to happen-- and yet, nothing. The prologue was bland and didn't tie into the rest of the story, and I think the main character wasn't likeable and quite boring. When things got bad, she drank too much (often) and also relied on the wisdom of the very old a little too often to be believable.

    4. This book stressed me out. The main character just kept making bad decisions even though she knew she was . . . dnf'd at about 40%.

    5. I was leery of reading another voyage of self-discovery book after the self-involved garbage of Patti Callahan Henry's Between the Tides, but Buxbaum gets right every single thing Henry does not, with none of the missteps and narcissism. Her heroine, Em, is someone you could know and like in real life. She has flaws and quirks and the capacity to care for others, even when she is being bitchy. Which isn't that often. Here is a woman I felt actually modeled on real life, who breathes through pros [...]

    6. This book really got me, brought me in -- where a title like that can rarely get my attention.The characters, and main character Emily, were endearing, funny, their own voice, brought to life, and surrounded and engulfed Emily in a way that rang true.There were many heart tearing moments, surprising me constantly, and a deep exploration at other moments that left me blushing or feeling as if it hit very close to home. There has been a theme of leaving or losing on purpose (or forcefully) an unhe [...]

    7. I'm not sure I've ever had this same experience where I'm reading a book and thinking, "how does this author know exactly what my life is like?" But the truth is, it doesn't matter that many of the details aren't exactly the same-- what matters is that Ms. Buxbaum captures so many universal feelings in a realistic, true and contemporary way. At first I thought, I have to make sure all my girlfriends from law school, the firm, and after read this; but truth be told, this is a great, engaging, hea [...]

    8. Not my genre of choice, but it is a fine choice for a beach read/travel bookaty chick lit. Very funny characters, and surprisingly realitstically writen. If I met the author, I can safely assume I won't see someone wearing pink and carrying around bridal magazines.

    9. When Emily Haxby suddenly dumps her boyfriend of two years Andrew, just as he’s about to propose, she can’t explain why to anybody, not even to Andrew or her close friends, not really. Once Emily realises her mistake, though, it’s too late and her life soon begins falling apart. She’s fed up of working for a lecherous boss, particularly when he assigns her to a case she doesn’t feel right defending. Then the biggest blow of all comes, her Grandpa Jack, the man she adores most in the wo [...]

    10. While the framework is stale--a 29-year-old New York lawyer who just dumped her boyfriend and hates her job has a quarter-life crisis--I thought the writing had surprising depth. The main character is haunted by her mother's death, struggles with her grandfather's illness and is believably conflicted about her relationship with her former boyfriend. There are some one-dimensional side characters and, like most chick-lit, the upbeat ending is somewhat forced. But there were quite a few genuinely [...]

    11. Put Down the Keyboard and Touch SomebodyAbsolutely captivating description of the angst and redemption of a young professional person.The book became a cherished companion and the character a friend to comfort and console. I wanted to read slowly, a chapter or two at a time, and then carry the words around with me until I could read again.Each character is skillfully crafted, dialogue and situations are very realistic, and I found myself feeling the same tension and nervousness as Emily. I looke [...]

    12. This is a debut novel that got a lot of attention in review journals, etc so I have had in on my TBR list for a long time. I wasn’t disappointed. Emily is a 29-year old lawyer frustrated with her job as a litigation attorney. Her relationship with her father is strained, her beloved grandfather is ill and she has just broken up with the perfect boyfriend. Emily’s comments often made me smile and I even had a few tears during reading this book. Definitely a step above the chick lit/single wom [...]

    13. I randomly picked this up at the library and it was so good. Some of the themes were definitely covered territory. A successful lawyer uncertain of her relationship, her career and her sense of family. But I really enjoyed Buxbaum's writing. She was gentle and compassionate in her story of Emily.Of course too, I really enjoyed Emily's relationship with Grandpa Jack. It was really special and caused other supportive relationships in her life, such as the one with Ruth.I look forward to the career [...]

    14. I thought this was an amazing debut novel. Lots of interesting, complex characters and relationships. At the beginning of the book, Emily makes a rash decision that she later realizes was terribly wrong, but she can't quickly make it right again - with the help of some good friends, relatives and therapy she learns to grow and make positive changes in all parts of her life. A great example of more serious chick lit that's touching and humorous at the same time.

    15. I really enjoyed this book. It reminded me a little of Lolly Winston or Sarah Dunn, but with its own distinct voice. I like books that are funny (without being too biting) and wise, and this one fit the bill.There is has been a lot pre-pub buzz surrounding this novel and it definitely lives up to expectations.

    16. Esperaba que The Opposite of Love fuera una de esas historias ligeras que emocionan.Lamentablemente no logré conectar con Emily y su "confusión".

    17. !!! Libro contenente uno spropositato numero di clichè !!!e se ve lo dice una la cui esperienza in romanzi rosa rasenta lo zero leggetelo a vostro rischio e pericolo.Cercate un libro in cui la protagonista butta all'aria la sua felicità pur di non sposarsi, perchè vorrebbe dire impegnarsi per sempre?Volete vederla cercare di ristabilirsi dopo una rottura e buttarsi a capofitto in un lavoro che, improvvisamente, va contro i suoi principi morali? Volete vederla fare l'eroina dei tempi moderni, [...]

    18. After reading Tell Me Three Things last week, I decided I wanted to read another book by this author. I really enjoyed. It was about a woman who needs to step back from things she and others deemed important in order to move forward. I feel that the title is a bit misleading, it is not really a romance. More or less it's about the journey of one woman's self discovery by addressing issues she had not confronted. Looking forward to more by this author.

    19. I picked up The Opposite of Love after first reading and enjoying Julie Buxbaum’s sophomore novel After You.I try not to compare novels when I read them but I am in awe of Buxbaum’s ability to write about death and self-doubt while still keeping things relatively light and enjoyable; it’s sort of like the teacher whose class is so fun you don’t realize you are learning.I found myself longing to have coffee with Emily and trade stories about our parental misadventures. The similarities in [...]

    20. This was a quick read and I enjoyed the story. Parts of it were very relatable to my own life before marriage and career. The major characters were all likable and fun to get to know throughout the book. I felt like I grew with Emily as the book progressed.

    21. ¡Pañuelos desechables por favor!He llorado como no se imaginan con esta novela, sufrí con Emily, con Andrew, me divertí con Jack, en fin…Emily es abogada y odia a su jefe (yo lo odiaría también), es hija única, huérfana de madre, con su papá no tiene una comunicación muy buena que digamos. La persona a la que más quiere es a su abuelo Jack, que por si fuera poco, está muriéndose…Un día, Emily se da cuenta que no puede seguir adelante con la relación que lleva con Andrew, su no [...]

    22. Proving yet again that you can choose a book by its cover, I was drawn to this as it had a great photo of the Flatiron building on the cover (a much underrated building, in my opinion.).I was expecting chick-lit, but instead found a dark, grief-riddled story which really resonated with me. Like Emily, I lost my mother to cancer and some of Emily's observations were profound, and brought tears to my eyes.Talking about her mother's funeral:"It seems odd to me now, but I remember instead of focusin [...]

    23. Emily Haxby is lost. She breaks up with her boyfriend of two years because she thinks he is going to propose (she's right, he was about to). Her job at a prestigious law firm is far less than satisfying, especially after one of the partners makes unwanted sexual advances. Her mother died when she was fourteen and she's never had an open relationship with her father (lying to each other about life is just what they do). The one person in life who has always been there for Emily is her Grandpa Jac [...]

    24. I love smart chick lit books. They are the ones that don't scream chick lit, but really they still are. The cover isn't pink and girlie, and the main character actually has a brain and doesn't need to rely on a guy or endless shopping to make her happy. This is one of those books. Even though it is about love and realizing that you had the right person when you no longer had them. Emily breaks up with her boyfriend Andrew when she gets the feeling that he's going to ask her to marry him. Andrew [...]

    25. Emily Haxby is a twenty-nine-year-old lawyer in Manhattan. She has her own apartment. She has good friends. She has a happy relationship with her long time boyfriend, Andrew Warner. But when Andrew pulls her toward a window display of engagement rings, she knows what she has to do: she must break up with him.And this is exactly what she does. Breaking his (and her own) heart, Emily ends their relationship, and spends the following months trying to convince herself that she did the right thing. I [...]

    26. I loved this book. I feel like passing it onto all my girlfriends. I got completely caught up in it and I was rooting for the heroine to find happiness. It's about Emily, in her late 20s and working crazy hours as an associate in a prestigious New York law firm. She has been dating perfect Andy for two years, but when she senses that he's on the verge of proposing she gets cold feet and breaks up with him. Almost immediately she wonders if she's made a terrible mistake, especially when Andy seem [...]

    27. It's the end of the school year and it's time for me to start frequenting the awesome Casey Public Library again! And I mean that. They do a wonderful job of weeding the old titles in their small space, and I love the selection of audiobooks. Just right to entertain me in my vehicle during the summer![return][return]This adult novel intrigued me by the cover, but it almost needs a more chick lit-ish one. Emily Haxby is a power attorney, dealing with a boss who sexually harasses her, an important [...]

    28. I really enjoyed this book! It was a light, fluffy chick-lit and exactly what I needed. It did take me a while to read it, which probably affected me not giving it a higher rating, but nevertheless it was nice. I thought reading from Emily's perspective was very refreshing she's definitely not your typical narrator but in a good way. Just the way she sees the world is fantastic. I really enjoyed the fact that the author was previously a lawyer as well, so despite the wide use of large vocabulary [...]

    29. Wonderful!Wonderful story about a young woman who is her own worst enemy. The story begins with Emily Haxby deciding to break it off with her boyfriend, Andrew. She is completely unable to explain to anyone why she felt that she had to do this.After this everything else seems to follow suit. She is a lawyer at a large, self important firm where she is assigned a case that pretty much goes against everything she believes in. And on top of that, the lawyer she is assisting is sexually harassing he [...]

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